What’s in Your Mother’s Day Heart?

Annah ElizabethHolidays & Celebrations, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health, ParentingLeave a Comment

Dearest Neighbor, if today–Mother’s Day–you are somehow feeling sad, mad, shame, depressed, deprived, or less than special, you are not alone. I feel you. I see you. I honor and salute you, all of you who carry a mother’s love in your heart, but may not be able to show or share it because something is standing between you and that nurturing. Two decades ago, as we were leaving the funeral for my son, Gavin Michael, my good friend said to me, “You’re a great mom, and he’s so lucky to have you.” It took me a few years to recognize that even though I didn’t have the opportunity to do the traditional “Mom” things, I was his mother in so many ways, ways that were merely (and vastly) different than what we humans expect or envision about Motherhood. In the years since, I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on my friend’s proclamation, and the terms Mom and Motherhood have taken on an entirely new depth for me.

Ask Annah: What Could I Have Done to Prevent or Change the Course of My Loss Event?

Annah ElizabethAsk Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental HealthLeave a Comment

“What could I have done differently,” “What did I miss,” and “Where did I go wrong,” “Could I have prevented this from happening,” are common questions in loss. I asked each of the questions following my Gavin’s death, again after each of the two miscarriages, and yet again after I discovered my husband and my best friend having an affair. … Read More

Ask Annah (and Tiny Buddha): Why Do I Feel so Alone?

Annah ElizabethAsk Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health, Relationships2 Comments

Dear Journeyer, Nearly every day I read this question or hear someone pleading for an answer to the overwhelming fear or loss they feel inside. A sense of loneliness or of feeling alone can impact any combination of your academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual facets and it is one of the factors that could be standing between you and … Read More

Healing and the Two Sides of Darkness

Annah ElizabethHealing and the Two Sides of, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental HealthLeave a Comment

Winter is well underway, Journeyer, and Seasonal Affective Disorder looms over many of our heads. This post I wrote a year ago was wildly popular and I can only surmise it is because there are many thousands of us whose bodies don’t work quite right during those winter days and months of shortened daylight. May you find some modicum of … Read More

Making Merry, Nice, and the Most of Life through Changing Our Thoughts

Annah ElizabethHappy Happens ™, Marriage, Mental HealthLeave a Comment

“The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they make the best of everything.” ~ Author Unknown Happy Sunday, Journeyer, You know those expressions about being split wide open or having our hearts swell to the breaking point? Those are the things that happen right before our greatest personal growth moments. They are the loss events that eventually lead … Read More

Healing and the Two Sides of Your Calendar

Annah ElizabethHealing and the Two Sides of, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Spirituality3 Comments

I recently sat in on a class titled Administrative Skills for Office Professionals. One of the things I’ve always said to my children and anyone else who would listen is this: “We can learn something new every day if our  mind is open to it. It might be something as simple as a person’s name, but we’ve learned something.” I’ve … Read More

The Art of Life Spilled Over

Annah ElizabethHappy Happens ™, Mental Health, RelationshipsLeave a Comment

Happy Sunday, Journeyer, This past week I opened the microwave door to find my lunch bowl of oatmeal boiled over. Already running late, I could easily have gotten all upset about the necessity to now do a little cleaning before I returned to work. There might have been a second of irritation before I noticed the artistic patterns that formed … Read More