What’s in Your Mother’s Day Heart?

Annah Elizabeth Holidays & Celebrations, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health, Parenting Leave a Comment

Dearest Neighbor, if today–Mother’s Day–you are somehow feeling sad, mad, shame, depressed, deprived, or less than special, you are not alone. I feel you. I see you. I honor and salute you, all of you who carry a mother’s love in your heart, but may not be able to show or share it because something is standing between you and that nurturing. Two decades ago, as we were leaving the funeral for my son, Gavin Michael, my good friend said to me, “You’re a great mom, and he’s so lucky to have you.” It took me a few years to recognize that even though I didn’t have the opportunity to do the traditional “Mom” things, I was his mother in so many ways, ways that were merely (and vastly) different than what we humans expect or envision about Motherhood. In the years since, I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on my friend’s proclamation, and the terms Mom and Motherhood have taken on an entirely new depth for me.

Ask Annah: How Do I Create The Future Me?

Annah Elizabeth Ask Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health Leave a Comment

Dear Neighbor, Thank you for this question and your courage to heal your heartaches big and small so you can go on to live your dream life, the one YOU SO TOTALLY DESERVE, by unearthing your Future You. Understanding that we cannot return to the past and to some “Old Me” can certainly be frustrating. I well remember the angst …

Ask Annah: How Can I Fix My Grief Pain?

Annah Elizabeth Ask Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health 2 Comments

Dearest Neighbor, I feel your pain and I am so very sorry for your losses. “How can I fix my grief pain,” you ask? I wish there was one simple answer I could give you, some magic wand I can wave to make the hurt all go away, but since I wasn’t born with those gifts, I’ll be happy to …

Ask Annah: What Could I Have Done to Prevent or Change the Course of My Loss Event?

Annah Elizabeth Ask Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health Leave a Comment

“What could I have done differently,” “What did I miss,” and “Where did I go wrong,” “Could I have prevented this from happening,” are common questions in loss. I asked each of the questions following my Gavin’s death, again after each of the two miscarriages, and yet again after I discovered my husband and my best friend having an affair. …

Ask Annah (and Tiny Buddha): Why Do I Feel so Alone?

Annah Elizabeth Ask Annah, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health, Relationships 2 Comments

Dear Journeyer, Nearly every day I read this question or hear someone pleading for an answer to the overwhelming fear or loss they feel inside. A sense of loneliness or of feeling alone can impact any combination of your academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual facets and it is one of the factors that could be standing between you and …

The 5 by 5 Formula, a 5 Facets Happiness Rule

Annah Elizabeth Family, Happy Happens ™, Mental Health Leave a Comment

“The 5 x 5 Rule: If it’s not gonna matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset by it.” ~ Author Unknown Happy Sunday, Journeyer! I’m having a hard time trying to tell you how my week went… Seldom am I at a loss for words and after numerous starts and re-starts, nothing feels right… But …

Healing and the Two Sides of Darkness

Annah Elizabeth Healing and the Two Sides of, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Mental Health Leave a Comment

Winter is well underway, Journeyer, and Seasonal Affective Disorder looms over many of our heads. This post I wrote a year ago was wildly popular and I can only surmise it is because there are many thousands of us whose bodies don’t work quite right during those winter days and months of shortened daylight. May you find some modicum of …

Making Merry, Nice, and the Most of Life through Changing Our Thoughts

Annah Elizabeth Happy Happens ™, Marriage, Mental Health Leave a Comment

“The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they make the best of everything.” ~ Author Unknown Happy Sunday, Journeyer, You know those expressions about being split wide open or having our hearts swell to the breaking point? Those are the things that happen right before our greatest personal growth moments. They are the loss events that eventually lead …

Healing and the Two Sides of Your Calendar

Annah Elizabeth Healing and the Two Sides of, Loss, Grief, and Healing, Spirituality 3 Comments

I recently sat in on a class titled Administrative Skills for Office Professionals. One of the things I’ve always said to my children and anyone else who would listen is this: “We can learn something new every day if our  mind is open to it. It might be something as simple as a person’s name, but we’ve learned something.” I’ve …

The Art of Life Spilled Over

Annah Elizabeth Happy Happens ™, Mental Health, Relationships Leave a Comment

Happy Sunday, Journeyer, This past week I opened the microwave door to find my lunch bowl of oatmeal boiled over. Already running late, I could easily have gotten all upset about the necessity to now do a little cleaning before I returned to work. There might have been a second of irritation before I noticed the artistic patterns that formed …