Why am I here? That is one of the greatest existential questions of all time, Neighbor. No doubt you have heard many of the buzzwords like life purpose, soul mission, and destiny, to name a few. And no doubt you have tried countless courses and methodologies to help you figure out what all this means to you. Like me, maybe … Read More
What’s in Your Mother’s Day Heart?
Dearest Neighbor, if today–Mother’s Day–you are somehow feeling sad, mad, shame, depressed, deprived, or less than special, you are not alone. I feel you. I see you. I honor and salute you, all of you who carry a mother’s love in your heart, but may not be able to show or share it because something is standing between you and that nurturing. Two decades ago, as we were leaving the funeral for my son, Gavin Michael, my good friend said to me, “You’re a great mom, and he’s so lucky to have you.” It took me a few years to recognize that even though I didn’t have the opportunity to do the traditional “Mom” things, I was his mother in so many ways, ways that were merely (and vastly) different than what we humans expect or envision about Motherhood. In the years since, I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on my friend’s proclamation, and the terms Mom and Motherhood have taken on an entirely new depth for me.
Ask Annah: How Do I Create The Future Me?
Dear Neighbor, Thank you for this question and your courage to heal your heartaches big and small so you can go on to live your dream life, the one YOU SO TOTALLY DESERVE, by unearthing your Future You. Understanding that we cannot return to the past and to some “Old Me” can certainly be frustrating. I well remember the angst … Read More
Ask Annah: How Can I Fix My Grief Pain?
Dearest Neighbor, I feel your pain and I am so very sorry for your losses. “How can I fix my grief pain,” you ask? I wish there was one simple answer I could give you, some magic wand I can wave to make the hurt all go away, but since I wasn’t born with those gifts, I’ll be happy to … Read More
Ask Annah: What Could I Have Done to Prevent or Change the Course of My Loss Event?
“What could I have done differently,” “What did I miss,” and “Where did I go wrong,” “Could I have prevented this from happening,” are common questions in loss. I asked each of the questions following my Gavin’s death, again after each of the two miscarriages, and yet again after I discovered my husband and my best friend having an affair. … Read More
Ask Annah (and Tiny Buddha): Why Do I Feel so Alone?
Dear Journeyer, Nearly every day I read this question or hear someone pleading for an answer to the overwhelming fear or loss they feel inside. A sense of loneliness or of feeling alone can impact any combination of your academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual facets and it is one of the factors that could be standing between you and … Read More
The 5 by 5 Formula, a 5 Facets Happiness Rule
“The 5 x 5 Rule: If it’s not gonna matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset by it.” ~ Author Unknown Happy Sunday, Journeyer! I’m having a hard time trying to tell you how my week went… Seldom am I at a loss for words and after numerous starts and re-starts, nothing feels right… But … Read More
Healing and the Two Sides of Darkness
Winter is well underway, Journeyer, and Seasonal Affective Disorder looms over many of our heads. This post I wrote a year ago was wildly popular and I can only surmise it is because there are many thousands of us whose bodies don’t work quite right during those winter days and months of shortened daylight. May you find some modicum of … Read More
Making Merry, Nice, and the Most of Life through Changing Our Thoughts
“The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they make the best of everything.” ~ Author Unknown Happy Sunday, Journeyer, You know those expressions about being split wide open or having our hearts swell to the breaking point? Those are the things that happen right before our greatest personal growth moments. They are the loss events that eventually lead … Read More
Healing and the Two Sides of Your Calendar
I recently sat in on a class titled Administrative Skills for Office Professionals. One of the things I’ve always said to my children and anyone else who would listen is this: “We can learn something new every day if our mind is open to it. It might be something as simple as a person’s name, but we’ve learned something.” I’ve … Read More