Ask Annah: Why I Stayed Married after My Husband’s Two Affairs

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Dear Journeyer, Many people enter a state of disbelief when they learn that I am still married to the man who had two affairs following our wedding vows. And while some just can’t seem to wrap their brains around it, others have appeared flustered or fustrated, while one person wrote a scathing comment that basically described me as the reason …

The Wait is OVER: Digging for the Light is HERE!

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Today’s THE DAY, Journeyers!! I’m excited and honored and nervous and happy as all get-out… If you pre-ordered the Nook version, it’s waiting for you now! The Kindle version went live a few hours ago! And you can order the print version here. The paperback link hasn’t quite made its way to Amazon’s search database, but should be there within …

Addressing Attachment Injury

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“I’ve been thinking about you two,” Trish said, “and about how I can best help.” The last time Warren and I were in this therapist’s office, we had some heated discussions about The Future—Ours, His, Mine—The House, Retirement, The Economy, The Funds (now and forthcoming). He, who has lived in the same community—within a ten-mile radius—his entire life, is not …

The Rearview Mirror

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View from My Rearview Mirror “You’ve got to quit looking in the rearview mirror.”Last June, when I was feeling overwhelmed by the Hamster-Wheel month and a little depression, I had my first appointment with The Therapist. I told her I needed to work on figuring out the cause of the ongoing anger and conflict I seemed to have regarding my …

Staying Married After a Second Affair

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Last night I wrote this post, which was inspired by a piece about Bill Clinton’s sixty-sixth birthday. That article questioned if the former president could have known, the day he met then-President JFK, that he would someday succeed the great man. That question spawned another musing for me: Did it ever dawn on Bill that he might someday have a …

Bill Clinton and the Evolution of a Marriage that Transcends Infidelity

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Stylelistran this piecein honor of Bill Clinton’s sixty-sixth birthday, this past Sunday. The article questions if the seventeen-year-old Clinton knew he would someday follow in the footsteps of JFK, when he met him at the White House in 1963. And according to his memoir, My Life, Clinton does state he knew he was destined to a life in politics by …

Dear John; How the Sagas of People Like John Edwards and John Travolta Affect People Like Me

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I would have voted for you, John Edwards. The All-American Boy who grew up in Small Town America. The Boy Next Door with good ole’ fashioned values and a warm charm that is part and parcel to Southern-style hospitality. As it is, I don’t remember the last time I voted for a U.S. President. Politicians are liars and cheaters and …

I Don’t Want to be Branded by My Husband’s Affair, or Limited by the Past

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In January, I discovered I’d been living in the past. And recently I uncovered yet another layer to this existence. My past, so to speak, the timeline upon which I base my present life, seems to begin and end five-and-a-half years ago. September 1, 2006. The day I stumbled upon my husband’s second affair. And frankly, I am a bit …

On Marital Discord, Part II

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Blink. Sixty seven days have elapsed without me following up to the first post on marital discord, sixty-three days since my last writing on this site.  Yet it feels like only a week or so ago that I was snapping photos of the uncharacteristically sunny, northeast skies. Where have I been? Procrastinating, I guess. Oh, I’ve been plenty busy with …

A Pretty Side of Peril

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As I write, Hurricane Irene is fizzling out, southerners are accessing the damage, and northerners will soon be following in their footsteps. We are far enough North that only the storm’s outer bands have reached us. The wind outside my home is blowing branches and hurling raindrops. But in spite of the gray skies, the chime on my deck rings …