“The opposite of love isn’t hate,” Counselor Sandy said several months back, “it’s indifference.” Those words have come to mind a few times since the wisdom was imparted. The opposite of love isn’t hate. Indifference isn’t a word I commonly use and since my understanding of the word was simply “to not care,” I couldn’t quite put Sandy’s words into perspective. And, … Read More
Healing and the Two Sides of Love
The esteemed Glennon Doyle Melton signs off most of her posts with “Love Wins.” I’ve read a few of her essays on the subject matter and I’m sure there are many more I haven’t read. It’s a pithy little mantra that has recently come into focus on an entirely new level for me. It first surfaced when a person with … Read More
Love is…
Happy Sunday, Journeyer! Do you have a Love hangover today? All I can say is I’m glad the best cure for a hangover is “the hair of the dog that bit ya,” ‘cause I’ve got one more meme to add to the mix… Love is the warmth that fills our insides when we give to others… Love is the warmth … Read More
Field of Dreams
Journeyer, do you know that feeling you get when you are able to something that brings another person joy? The warmth that envelops you and the smile that practically makes your jaws ache? On Thursday, Warren and I were a part of something so simple, and yet, something so profound for another young couple. You know that rehabbed house … Read More
HOLY MATRIMONY!
Holy cow! Holy cold! Holy hail! Holy hell! Holy shit! HOLY MATRIMONY! I am tired, Journeyers. Tired of revisiting the Same. Old. Arguments. Tired of fighting…to be heard…understood…validated… Tired of fighting to end the madnesses that are the foundations for relationship strife… Tired of fighting for all of us, my family, especially when I often feel like I’m the … Read More
On Martin Luther King, My Mother, and Killing Them with Kindness
Journeyers, I’ve just learned of She Writes’ request for entries to their Three Minus One essay contest. The call for stories involving child loss is definitely in my wheelhouse and today I’m hard at work preparing an entry worthy of the topic. As I write, millions of Americans continue their commemorative celebration of Martin Luther King’s “I have a … Read More
A Mother’s Love Gone Wrong
Journeyers, it’s been a whirlwind couple of weeks. Family in the hospital. Family coming and going. Skeletons leaping from closets. Gatherings and celebrations have collided with worry and heartache and painful memories. The flurry of activity kept me from writing yesterday. The emotional drain of last night’s and the previous evening’s events leaves me exhausted. Limbs seemingly drained of life. … Read More
Peace, Love, Joy, and Chute Happen
The northeast heat wave has been oppressive this past week. But it’s been a beautiful week, nonetheless, because we’ve been on vacation. No business. No mail to collate, cats to feed, plants to water, dog to walk, or phones to answer… Why do we DO that anyway, run to grab the tele, just because it rings?! No hospital visits or … Read More
Honoring and Holding Space for All Those Left Behind
On Sunday I attended a simple ceremony for a sixty-something-year-old man who had given up on life years before his body did. He wasn’t a veteran, but one of the young men in attendance has been newly inducted into the Marines and may soon be deployed. As I stared at the countless flags dotting the landscape on … Read More
Thankfully, Life Isn’t Static
Across the road from where I sit, the street light flickers on and off, as it has been since our arrival three days ago. “Dumbledore’s there,” I joked, “watching over us.” I am at the beach. On vacation. With family and some close friends. On Thursday, my friend and I treated ourselves to manicures and pedicures before beginning the process … Read More