Ask Annah: Does Grief Last Forever?

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Dearest Neighbor, First, I’m sorry for your loss and your heartache. Please know that, though it might sometimes feel like you are all alone, you have a world of support to help you in your grief and beyond. Will your grief last forever? It doesn’t have to, Journeyer, but it all depends on you. In the 5 Steps of Healing, …

Ask Annah: Why Do Friendships Change After a Significant Loss?

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“Friendships are discovered rather than made.” ~ Harriett Beecher Stowe Dear Journeyer, “Why do friendships change after a significant loss?” is a question and conversation I hear regularly from people of all ages and across all loss forms. If you have discovered that your relationships with friends or family feel strange or estranged since a Significant Life Loss Event entered …

Ask Annah: Why Do I Feel Worse 2-3 Years after My Significant Life Loss Event

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Dear Journeyer, I am often asked some variation of this question: “It’s been three years since my child/parent/sibling/spouse/best friend died and I feel worse now than I did when it happened. What is wrong with me?” Though this query often references the death of a person, I have also heard it with regard to other forms of loss, including but …

A Break in the Clouds

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Happy Sunday, Journeyer, It has been a rough two weeks, a sort of calm before the storm. Days filled with anxiety and unrecognized fear, two things that when combined are a cocktail for Anger and Frustration and Heartache. Despite abundant sunshine, my days were filled with a thick haze that precedes a storm. My nights  interrupted by persistent, yet unusual, lightening …

The (Not-So) Perfect Day

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I’ve never really paid much attention to the cards hanging on my therapists’ waiting room fridge. Until today. Today these simple words drew me in. “What is your perfect day?” somehow filled me up, expanded my rib cage and my lungs and my heart and my head with promise and contentment and a sense of pleasure. But right now, after …

Our Roots

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  “This is the hard work of marriage,” I said to Warren. We were sitting on our deck steps, arguing the way we’ve argued for twenty-some years. Streams of snot and tears ran down my face. “The easier thing to do would have been to say ‘Fuck YOU,’ and leave,” Warren. “The easier thing would be to bury our heads …

Two Things

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Dear Journeyer,Though this message was originally written with a single individual in mind, it applies for each and every one of us… I can’t seem to get enough of your writing. And, honestly, I just can’t shake you, or you and Hubby, or you and your beautiful little family from my mind. Last week I was moved to write you …

I Could Use a Friend (or seven) Right About Now

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Journeyers, I need you right now. A couple of weeks ago, something inside of me broke. And instead of trying to fix it, I buried it. I went on weekend trips with Warren and pretended to myself and him and the world around us that we were happy. That I was happy holding his hand and standing by his side. …

Addressing Attachment Injury

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“I’ve been thinking about you two,” Trish said, “and about how I can best help.” The last time Warren and I were in this therapist’s office, we had some heated discussions about The Future—Ours, His, Mine—The House, Retirement, The Economy, The Funds (now and forthcoming). He, who has lived in the same community—within a ten-mile radius—his entire life, is not …